TLC

Hey ​F​amily!

How's everything going?

​...W​ondering​; ​are you feeling amazing, abundant and free?

Or are you struggling with how life matches up to your expectations?

My hope is that you are feeling more of the former versus the latter​...​BUT if the latter is your temporary portion, let me share a little something with you. Expectations are really just assumptions of how things are or how they will be...and we know that assumptions are quite often inaccurate or inflated.

Which is why we have to be very careful of ​how we evaluate ​our expectations. How much weight or authority we give our expectations can quite often cause us to miss the blessing in what is right in front of us!

Girl, give me an example! You say?

Well, as you know, I recently started a business and although I have a very realistic business plan​,​ my expectations for business operations, exposure, sales etc. often tend to lean more towards the equivalent to what "numbers" look like for established brands. I'm talking those with 10+ years in business, who are recognized as major players in their niche. (Mind you, I just opened to the public on 11/21/2020.)

And you ask; why wouldn't you se​e ​yourself amongst the "big dawgs" sis, you are winning too?

​Simply b​ecause​...

I​t's NOT time YET​!

There is such an importance in timing, trusting that ​timing ​and doing our part is so necessary while waiting for things to unfold. In my case, a start up has to run its course, a new business owner must do the work, exercise faith, consistency, give that extra push, try, ​make corrections​​, lay a foundation, up-root it, erase, ​evolve​, hit goals, miss goals, prioritize, communicate​....​​(WHEW, that's a bit much, right?) ​...and​ most​ importantly ​the need to ​LEARN!

Skipping any of the above steps ​will ​cause very key lessons to be overlooked and certain opportunities taken for granted.... and guess what else? Holding so tightly to the expectation​(s) ​causes the mind to miss what is ​actually and factually ​taking place.

​*sings* "​Baby that's actual and factual​ but I still choose youuu"​

​Ok, let me get back to the message:​

The facts are this; a new company was built from what began as just an idea, people have been employed as a result of that idea, consumers have been given a new shopping experience and a new retail destination, thousands in gross revenue has come through the company's doors and hundreds of sales made.... the best part, a ​DREAM​ ​REALIZED​!!

The same courage that it took to start will be the same courage and resilience needed to sustain and to eventually see th​e similar ​metrics of my million dollar counterparts... CHA CHING... lol...because guess what, I'm in the same "game" as they are, I'm at the table! ​

B​eing at the table means that one is taking part in the same occasion, that one must and will EAT. It's only a matter of time that the main course will make it to my place setting and I​'ll ​then have ​say so ​​in ​what ​ultimately ​appears on that plate. That ​"​meal choice​"​ ​will be​ ​fundamentally made up of clarity, confidence, not quitting, a plethora of planning and much investing​;​ it is a number of small wins that are bound to equal surmountable results.

​Are you able to recognize areas of your life where you are in-fact "At The Table" too?

I just know that you are!!

​What ​parts ​of your life do you need to sit back​ and ​set aside the expectations to see what is really happening in front of you?

What are you overlooking?

Are you not giving yourself credit for taking courses towards your ​U​ndergrad because your expectations said that you should be doing something else? No matter how you look at it you are putting in the work, studying​ and ​applying fresh concepts​. ​There is surely a reward in that!

Or how about you over there, beating yourself up for being passed up for the promotion? Butttt, you are a leader amongst your peers, you have expertise in your current role and guess what, you are still of value to your company BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL THERE! The promotion will come, release the expectation of when and just continue to do you, trust me they will see you.

What about you, with those fitness goals? ...still struggling to lose the last 10lbs? How about instead of looking ahead, look at the present. Tally ​up ​the other lbs that you've lost and the new healthy habits that picked up on your journey​!​ These are profitable too. The goals will be met, ​if you stay encouraged and focused.

Whatever it may be for you, know that our assumptions of how a thing can​ happen, when it will ​happen​ and how it is to play out​ only ​rob ​the joy ​from ​the process, while clouding our assessment of each blessing!

Yes, it clouds how you see your own blessing​!!​ Doesn't that sound ridiculous?

​We are seeing a whole blessing for less than what it is.... a whole ​GIFT, ​GRACE​​, ​FAVOR​, ​MAJESTY ​and GOD'S BEST is being skewed because it hasn't matched our cloudy theories. MM MM MM, just a shame.

I know, I know but the bright side is that we CAN do better and we WILL!

Let's agree to see our situations, finances, relationships, circumstances, businesses and achievements for what they truly are! Blessings on Blessings on Blessings... as we make forward progress and relish in the wild ride... called the beautiful experience of life!

​I hope that those amazing, abundant and free feelings that I mentioned earlier catch up to you this week!

If this entry resonated with you, comment below! 'Til next time...​

​With encouragement & many cheers! Candace​

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